With a beautiful journey of motherhood, a challenge comes and that is a tantrum. It is very frustrating at some point in time for any parents if the kid is throwing tantrum, and we started losing our calm. But in spite of getting irritated and frustrated, we should take it as an opportunity to make them calm and educate them on something good. If we shout at them, they may get quiet for that point in time but you will never be able to make them understand what was wrong behind their tantrum and what else they could have done.
Tantrums are a part of a child’s emotional development. Usually, they show tantrums to express their frustration and anxiety. Sometimes they can’t recognize their needs and started crying. We should identify their needs and address them.
Possible Reason behind their tantrums.
All the children are different and so will be their reason. But I am trying to address a few of them that I encounter with my baby. She used to throw a lot of tantrums whenever she needs anything. Let’s discuss a few of the possible reasons and how we can deal with them.
- They want any new toys or want to go to the place they love.
- They don’t want to accept their sleep timing.
- It may be possible that they don’t want to eat the food that you have served them.
- Attention-seeking could also be a reason, you must have noticed that whenever you are busy with any of your important chores they started crying at the same time. They want you to pay full attention to them.
- They can be tired or may have body pain. Sometimes kids do a lot of physical activity and then they got tired, and out of pain and tiredness, they started crying.
What parents can do to avoid this?
As a parent, we always want to avoid these kinds of situation. Most of the time when we are at some public place and our kids start crying or getting angry, instead of understanding his situation we start getting angry or losing our calm. Especially with first-time moms, it gets very difficult to understand your kid’s behavior. So, I pen down some of the tricks that worked well with .me in controlling my kid’s behavior
1.Stay Calm.
First thing first you have to be calm in these situations. If you get angry and started getting frustrated it will not help you, rather the situation will become more worst. Don’t give up on their demands immediately just to avoid the situation. If you do this they will tend to repeat this behavior every time they want anything.So.dodon’t lose your calm and handle the situation with patience.
2.Find a calm place .
IF you are at a place where so many peoples are there, then find a place where you can be alone with your kid. Then try to understand the reason behind your kid’s behavior. Give him time to explain things, and then make him understand why he can’t have that. Explaining things with a good reason can sometimes help in handling the situation.
3.Reward your baby.
Make a habit to appreciate your kid when he does something good either in his school or at home. When you assign him any chores and he does it then give him some rewards, this will motivate him to do good things and enhance his positive behavior.
4.Set clear rules in advance.
I know setting a rule and following that is not possible with kids every time. But at least we can try. Make them understand that it’s not possible to make everything available to them that they want. If they want anything that is important for them and they really need it, there should be a proper way to ask for it. Yelling and throwing tantrums is not the way to ask for anything..
As a parent, it’s not always necessary to be very strict with our kids. But rather we can make identify the reasons behind their behavior and make them understand. This will lead to positive behavior.
