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It would help if you stopped comparing your kid with others. It is the most common approach to specific your kid’s performance. You always want them to be at their best and achieve all that they deserve and they can. There is nothing terrible in it. So what bad is it that you started comparing your kids? You should never compare your kids with anyone[1]. It will only affect them negatively and can hamper their growth.

Say from the very beginning of their education. Like you compare your kid’s examination marks with other kids to check how well they have performed in the exam.

Comparing your kid with other kids will hurt their growth. There is nothing that you will achieve. Instead, you and your kid both will get stressed. It can also damage your relationship with your child. As you don’t know how your words are affecting your kid.

Parents often think that by comparing their kids with others, they boost their spirit of competition. But parents need to understand that this is not the way to encourage their child. Every individual is unique, and they are blessed with different qualities. If you continue comparing your kids, it will break their self-confidence.

Few things that may happen if you continue comparing your kids.

It will effect their self-esteem

Comparing your kid with another kid will slowly start to affect their confidence. Your action forces them to believe that they are not good enough. They start doubting themself that why they are not capable of doing what others can do.

This self-doubt in their capabilities may lower their self-confidence.

I know, a parent will never want their keed to feel this way. But your consistent comparison may cause your child to assume that they are not good enough. And this will affect both their academics and their personal growth. So it would be best if you never compared your kids with other kids in any manner.

It can cause stress

A parent should never pressurize their child with extreme expectations. If you continue comparing your child, it may stress them out. They will feel pressured in order to show you that they can also do well and get your approval. But this will only make a bad impact on their mental health. They will start feeling exhausted.

If you want your kid to do better, sit with them and ask how to help them. Don’t bring up anything about other kids during your conversation.

You should make them believe that they can perform better than what they did. If you show belief in your kid, they will surely do better as it will boost their confidence and feel less stressed.

Supresses talent

When a kid is constantly compared with others, there is very little chance that their talent will bloom. Like, if your kid is good at dancing, and you see that any other kid is doing good in sports. So you forcefully ask your kid to join that sport. If you won’t appreciate their talent, and they halfheartedly go for sport. It is possible that they won’t do good. And also their dancing talent will not have room to grow as you are neglecting the fact that your kid’s strength is.

Begin to withdraw themselves

It is possible when a child gets tired of being compared; they may begin to withdraw themselves completely.

You will find that your child started giving up very quickly and does not even try to attempt things. It may happen because they think someone will outperform it no matter how hard they push to complete a task. So they even stop trying. This kind of behavior is highly damaging for their mental development.

Carefree attitude

If your kid notices that their parents constantly appreciate other kids.No matter what they do, their achievements are ignored every time. Soon they may not even bother to impress you. Because they know you will clearly appreciate the other child who has more appropriate achievement according to you.

Social Interaction

Suppose you keep comparing your kid, not only in the house but also in any social gathering. You keep taunting them by giving any bodies references; they will soon start avoiding any social group you will be present with.

Positive comparision approach that may help your child

Unconditional love and support

Every child is unique, so their strength and weeknesses.No matter how your kid scores, never let them feel that they have let you down. Always support your child. Please encourage them to do better next time by appreciating their efforts. Appreciation always helps, and when you understand your child in public it will boost their confidence. Give lots of love and support to your child, this is all they need.

Realistic Expectations

Parents should never set unrealistic goals for their children. Instead, you should understand your child’s potential and help them excel in their interest area.

Help them coping with their weakness

Instead of pointing out their mistakes and making them realize that they are not good at the task they did. You should sit with them and understand the reason behind their performance. And you should help them so that they can overcome their weaknesses. It requires a lot of patience and is only possible if you show trust in your kid.

Appreciate their strength and should not compare your kids with others

Whenever your kid accomplishes any task well, always appreciate them. Your little appreciation may help in boosting their confidence. And they get the motivation to do any job with more enthusiasm.

Always remember that no one is perfect. As you can not be a perfect mother,r your child can’t excel in every field. The undue pressure of performance is producing very negative outcomes. A positive approach to upbringing your child can help your kid do good and grow into a confident and successful individual. Always be proud of your children and give them your immense love and support. Only your love and support can make a difference, not the comparison.